SO LADY TELL ME!!!

What kind of man is he?that at your appearance he marvels,because he knows what you are worth,far above rubies and way beyond money can buy.

Tell me!

what kind of man is he?that takes pleasure in your content,that places you as priority after God,that's selfless in all his ways,and selfless to the will of God.

Please tell me!what kind of man is he?that knows how to be the head,knows not to defer his promises,constantly seeks the face of God,knows how to take directions from God,and yields to the Holy Spirit.

So lady tell me!what kind of man is he?why is he so unmovable?why is he the most handsome man walking?why does his inner beauty surface so much?why is he so saved and sanctified?why is he so holy ghost-filled and fire-baptized?why does he go to church among the men of valor?

I'll tell you lady!I might not have all the answers for you,but whatever kind of man he is,for whatever reason he does the things he does,however he goes about his direction,whatever makes him love God so much,wherever he may be,black, white, brown or yellow,that's the man for me!

I can call him my husband & be content,I can be to him a wife of noble character,with me he will lack nothing of value,I will bring him no harm all the days of his life,he will be my hero,when he finds me he will know,that he has found a good thing,and he will receive favor from the Lord,because I am a proverbs 31 woman all the way!

He loves you BUT he's not inlove with you !

 Meanwhile, let me take you on a little trip

inside the mind of a man to that place where he

processes the emotions of love so you can

understand what that means to him.

WHAT A MAN MEANS BY "IN LOVE"

   I'm going to explain something to you about

men and love, and I'll try and keep it short. I'll

have to leave some big pieces out, but you'll get

what you need to know.

   I'll start by giving you what I hope will be a

kind of shift in your perspective about men...

   As much as men are different, when it comes

down to it, men are human. And because they're

human, they have more in common with women than

they have that makes them different.

   Which means that men share many of the same

dreams, fears, frustrations and worries that you

do on a basic level.

   One of the biggest fears that men have, as do

many women, is that they'll end up in a "loveless"

relationship that isn't about fulfillment or

passion and appreciation, but about entitlement,

obligation and where the two people in the

relationship are working kind of "against" each

other more often than supporting and loving each

other.

   Now, with that said, men who spend a lot of

time with women often grow close and connected,

and they develop a more "familiar" type of love

as time goes on. This is a great kind of love to

feel and to share, and it's the kind that usually

takes months or years to develop.

   It bonds a couple together in a very long term

"nesting" kind of way, as it's based on comfort

and predictability and stability.

   On the other hand, men also experience another

kind of love that isn't based on the familiar and

the predictable. In fact, this "other" feeling of

love is actually based on things that are NEW and

UNPREDICTABLE.

   And these are the qualities that I've

discovered make up that magic emotion called

ATTRACTION.

WHAT KEEPS ATTRACTION ALIVE

   Have you ever been in a relationship with a

man where he started out doing all kinds of

things to surprise you, show you his

appreciation, and come up with new things for

you both to do together?

   And what happened when you no longer felt this

excitement that came with surprises and the

unexpected things he did that drove you wild?

   Well, you might have felt as though something

had broken down in the relationship somewhere, or

that the man had stopped making an effort or

caring as much.

   In other words, you stopped feeling that kind

of love from him that used to drive you wild with

excitement to see him and be with him. And

without that, it felt like something was missing

or gone that needed to be there.

   Unfortunately, no amount of asking or pleading

with a man to change back to the way he was ever

really works in this situation. And not only does

it hurt that he's changed, but you lose that great

connection and the attraction you were feeling

with him.

LOSING THAT LOVING FEELING

   Know what I'm talking about? Ever experienced

this with a man?

   I thought so.

   Well, the reality is that men often

experience this same kind of thing with women.

   See, when a relationship starts to get more

comfortable, more predictable, and has more

routines in it, the kind of intense passion that

a man once felt can sometimes "fizzle out."

   Of course, what fizzles out isn't just about

sex and physical attraction... I'm talking about

what I call "emotional attraction."

THE ONE FEELING THAT MAKES HIM FALL IN LOVE...

AND STAY IN LOVE

   Emotional attraction is the thing that gets a

man to open up, to share his feelings and connect

with a woman on a deeper level than he usually

allows in to his life. It's what BONDS a man to

one woman over the long term.

   When a man says that he doesn't feel "in love"

with you anymore, what he's really saying is...

   "I used to feel both physical and emotional

attraction with you. But the way our relationship

has been, I'm not feeling much, if any, of that

emotional attraction now. And because of that,

what I feel in my heart and my head tells me that

something is `off' in our relationship, and I

don't know what to do about it."

   Now, if this doesn't sound "fair" and like a

man is removing himself from responsibility - I

get it. Should a man do more to get the

relationship back on track and reconnect the

relationship from his end?

   Yes. He could and should.

   But the REALITY is that in this situation,

the man is NOT doing this, and he either has no

idea what to do about it, or has decided that

things aren't working based on how he's feeling.

   You can either choose to try and go against

the reality of what other people in your life

feel and experience (and have a very difficult

time with it)...

   Or you can take a moment to simply accept the

situation as it is and CHOOSE what you want to do

about it - which puts you back in a positive and

grounded place of power in your life).

KEEPING EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION WORKING FOR YOU

   If you're sensing that a man is feeling less

connected to you - or he has even told you he's

not "feeling it" anymore - here's how to turn

the situation around:

Step 1) Stop focusing on what's NOT WORKING.

   What you focus your energy on is what you end

up seeing more of and getting more of. Instead of

focusing on what's NOT working, take some time to

access the positives of the your man and your

relationship, and make it a point to let your man

know that you appreciate these positive aspects.

   Often times your hurt and anger will give you

narrow vision and prevent you from acknowledging

what's actually working in your relationship.

   Widen the lens and look at the bigger picture

of your relationship. What's keeping you two

together? Bring your energy, awareness, and

appreciation there.

   While this sounds simple and too airy-fairy to

create any real change, you'll be surprised at the

effect it will have. When you shift your attention

and your thought pattern and "energy", the man in

your life will feel the shift in you, and it will

catch his attention and inspire him to be more

present in the relationship with you.

   Your thoughts have the power to create your

feelings. And your feelings have the power to

inspire your man to want to connect with you, or

want to pull away.

Step 2) Give yourself and him some "clear space".

   When someone asks for or creates distance or

space, you can handle it one of two ways. You can

either resist it and try to grab on tighter, which

only backfires. Or you can allow the space, and

even take some space for yourself.

   When you do this, something magical happens.

First, you feel empowered over the situation so

that your emotions do not overtake you. Second,

men often move past their own doubts and fears

in their own time when given space (a few hours

or days) to do so.

Step 3) Create attraction and re-connect

   If things are stalling in your relationship

with a man but you used to feel very connected to

him, this is actually good news for you. That's

because you already have all the ingredients you

need to re-light the fire of the relationship.

   If he was physically and emotionally

attracted to you before, you can inspire the same

level of closeness again.

   Here's how...

   Remember what I said before about attraction

and love happening for a man because of NEWNESS

and UNPREDICTABILITY?

   Well, if things have fizzled out with a man

you had a close, connected relationship with, you

can jump start things by injecting new and

unpredictable things into how you relate with him.

   So, if you normally have the same weekend

routine, mix it up. Come up with something

different and interesting to do.

   Pick a sport that you can do with him, go out

and meet new people together, explore different

ways to be intimate together, plan a trip

somewhere you've always wanted to go to.

   And if you are together all the time,

spending time apart as in step two creates

newness and unpredictability, too.

This was written by my professor! in my psychology/relationship class i found it helpful hope it does work for you..Am not all about relationship and Men i have more notes to come about everything you wish to read about..Still putting everything together!! stay blessed!! 

True Friends!!

My True Friend One day, I asked myself,"Is there still a friend that will show me her true self,"Is there still a friend that sticks closer than a brother,"But as I kept demanding for answers,My questions remained unanswered,And I lingered over these for days

But at a point, I saw hands appearing,Remoulding my lost image which was disappearing,Lifting me up when I was falling,Providing support when I was fainting,After a while, I started walking right,When I didn't even dream of standing right,Then I began to wonder where all these came from.

Then I asked God,"Please, what is the meaning of all these actions,"In a while, he gave me a detailed explanation,And I gave him thanks,Because when I asked for a true friend,He gave me true friends,And I also give appreciation to you my friends,Because you were there to mend,The holes of the past.

I have given you my appreciation,Now I want to make some recommendations,My friends, please hold my hands,So that we can walk through the land,Of betrayal and injustice,As we hold hands, we would see beyond injustice,And forever be the best of friends,But I want you to know, watever you doYou will still be my true friends forever... Dear friends, I want to show my appreciation to you for being there for me. In one way or the other, you've all helped me and I cannot express how much you all mean to me. To show my appreciation, I composed this little poem and tagged you in it. Please, I hope u cherish it and also take heed to my advice as I will always love you all.God bless you all.Love 

L-O-V-E

When you love, you don’t condemn another for not living their life like you do. When you love, you never give up on another but keep trying and praying until you see a change. You don’t feel like you’re better than the next but grateful to be where you are. When you love, you help those who are in need and not complain. I ride the train to school everyday and there are always people begging for money or food. I don’t give them money or food because I’m trying to act righteous but I look at them and thank God that I’m not in that situation and since I’m in a better place, all I can do is help. Love feeds the hungry and clothes the naked. Love is never hesitant to help no matter how many times you’ve been hurt. Love may sound stupid but love is the smartest. Love does not remember the wrongs done but keeps account of the good. Love does not dig up the past to condemn the present. Love always gives another chance. Love is so patient, always believing there will be change. In pain and discomfort, love keeps on going. When you love, you look at others with the eyes of Christ and see the best in them. You don’t go round looking for faults and flaws. Love is able to change the most wicked criminal and melt the hardest heart.


Love never fails. Where words and powerful preaching, speaking in tongues can’t touch a life, love will penetrate so deep. When you have love, you don’t need to speak too much, because it speaks for itself. Love will make you do the extraordinary without you even knowing it and in the process, lives are changed. You don’t even have to go round screaming “Jesus is coming soon” before people repent and want to serve your God, but your actions in love will prick their hearts and move them to know the God you’re serving. I’ll say it again, where words, eloquence, preaching can’t get to, love can and will always get there. I’ve said this before and I’m going to say it again, you can’t scare or force people to Christ but you can love them to Christ.
~iMMACULATE~

MEN! BOYS! MEN! BOYS!

Hello sweet people its been a while i wrote a note on here.You know having one of those days where your head is so over bloated you dont even know that else to write. For those who might be reading one of my notes for the first time let me first by saying thank you so much for taking your time to read my notes; i dont write for fun Either do i write cause am bored or i write cause i dont have a life? trust me Ive had people come to me and say that. But there is something special about people who write they are very very special people.My own reason for writing is it makes me feel good about myself just pouring out your heart out there through writing its the best feeling i can ever get in this world.Anyway to Cut my long story short_-_-_ My topic for to nigth is Difference between dating A REAL MAN and DATING A BOY!

10 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT REAL MEN!!!!!

1)A REAL MAN MAKES DECISIONS AND LIVES WITH THE CONSEQUENCES:

 There are many ways to define a man, and different people have different definitions, so I'm going to skip all that crap and tell you the only thing you need to know.I did my research on these and i find it very interesting i must say, cause its something my dad always told me a solid man would make decisions wisely and even if it were a wring move he made he would live with the consequences,but a floating non-stable man or rather call them Boys  are also in control of the decisions  they make but not the consequences. so ladies ask yourself would you rather date or marry who is SLID or is floating! u might ask yourself WAt THE HELL?h? is her point well immaculate here is trying to say! pick a SOLID MAN who can handle a solid relationship than  FLOATING man who would leave u hanging n u migth as well become MR&MRS FLOATER! with no solid foundation.but it has to start fromt he man.

LADIES STOP DATING BOYS AND DATE A REAL MAN

2) A REAL MAN IS STRONG:

I mean common ladies we want a man who can protect us and make us feel safe around them,even when we are weak they are our strong bone, someone who can yell at us the truth and we love when our men are not cowards either i mean Ive dated weak boys i mean extremely weak boys i cant stand it either.But let me clarify tht tho some real men cry and i dont see anything wrong in that actually everyone has thier weak point;but a real men rarely cries only if he was really hurt.A REAL MAN doesn't moan, doesn't complain, doesn't get sick, and doesn't need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a b*tch, a real man will slap it and move on.thats rigth immaculate said that. LADIES STOP DATING BOYS AND DATE A REAL MAN!

3)  A REAL MAN IS FOCUSED:

A real man focuses on power, money and family. He doesn't focus on sex. Sex comes as a result of having power, money and a wife (and if she doesn't satisfy you, there are plenty of other women who will, especially when you are powerful and rich).I mean honestly Ive dated so many guys who just aren't 

 focused at all, some are so immature all they care about is stupid things. and of course very little UN reasonable and profitable things that would bring them something positive in their life.I love a man who is also focused in school knows what is goals are and is ready to help people out there, ambitious,determined n also who thinks positively.Men always say they can't find a good woman, but when they do they don't know what to do with her! Thats because they are not focused! they dont have a plan for their life.LADIES STOP DATING BOYS AND DATE A REAL MAN!

4) A REAL MAN DOESNT GOSSIP:

of course ladies you know what i mean by that? ha ha ha i actually love this one in particular i must say cause there are so many many immature biys out there who just cant keep that mouth shut, and who said gossips were meant for women alone? loool  please take that out of your head today men do gossip more than we ladies.They talk about every little detail they must have done with a girl which i must say is very embarrassing for we girls cause we so much have trusted the guy to do certain things with even our best friends i mean listen to this OUR SO CALLED BEST FRIENDS WE DONT TELL THEM EVERY LITTLE DETAIL ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIPS OR PERSONAL LIVES! A real man follows omerta; he keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to and doesn't engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn't discuss things he doesn't know about or people he has never met.LADIES STOP DATING BOYS AND DATE REAL MEN

5) A REAL MAN DOESNT LOOK LIKE A WOMAN:

LADIES LADIES LADIES, my second best point of course u might be wondering what does she mean.but before i go further i must say am only writing this in my point of views and experiences ive been through.I might be young but Ive learnt so many both in a hard way,painful way, shameful what ever you wanna call it but life must go on.Not all i might have written here might relate with most ladies out there but i must say this is what ive experienced  so please every one is entitled to their own opinion.>>>>>> BACK TO MY Point.  A real man doesn't have piercings and long hair, and he doesn't shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman. yes immaculate said that. LADIES PLEASE DATE REAL MEN NOT A BOY!

6)  A REAL MAN CAN DEFEND HIMSELF:

i love it when men are very understanding and patience when it comes to arguing with women,they know how to defend them selves in a very high class manner, in fact i trip for men like that i really do honestly.A man who can stand up and own up to his own mistakes and never feels to proud to say AM SORRY. i respect men who defend themselves positively it just makes me go BOMB CHIKA WOW WOW! yea u know that commercial? loool yeap i totally forgot what the name of the cologne is but anyway LADIES THESE ARE MY OWN TIPS basically.it might work for you it might not work but am glad to help a lil. :)It's better to fall in love with the right guy at the wrong moment. Than with the wrong guy at the right moment.

7)  A REAL MAN IS NOT AFRAID TO TELL YOU HE LOVES YOU:

i hate when men says that word i love you without backing it up with actions, i mean you got to really prove that you mean it, so many boys these days say that word in order to get in between your thighs trust me they are very good actors in fact PHD in acting they play it so well, you think your in love they say I LOVE YOU every minute and we ladies cause we carry such a tender,flexible and fragile heart we tend to fall for their deceit and every word they do tell us which i must agree its true.This word love can be very deceitful but it takes a woman with wisdom who knows the meaning of love and knows when she sees and feels love to understand what i am talking about.Know the differenced between true love and real real love. ladies its very important

8)  A REAL MAN DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOUR WEIGTH:

and yes i have to talk about this topic cause so many relationships out there are been destroyed because of men who are so selfish n also heartless they feel skinny girls would stay skinny for ever.I must say attraction physically is a goog thing but not the best, honestly if you are emotionally and mentally attracted to sum1 through their heart the weight thing? you always have to over look that i respect guys who care much more about my health and not my weight. i mean i absolutely don't' see anything wrong with a woman who loves herself,her body and also is healthy i really have to say  are the women with high self esteem especially we black women ha ha ha my goodness i have some crazy black friends they dont think been fat is all that good but they discovered that is the way they are they love their body and also they have men in their lives who love them the way they are,LADIES IF YOUR MAN IS DISTANCE AWAY FROM YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR WEIGHT PLEASE PLEASE LISTEN HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU FOR YOU.he is only attracted to you and your sexuality dont be too dump to fall for it.my previous was based on my ex who was overly obsessed with models n wanted a skinny girl with the shape and all that,unfortunately the girl he dated after gained some weight and he dumped her for another girl,i mean when will guys realize that women will always change no matter how perfect they migth look now they will always and always chnage body shape we get wrinkled up easily you know what i mean.

9) A REAL MAN RESPECTS YOU

they respect your worth,value,and also your decision for example if you tell them you dont want to have sex with them, Real men who love you and know the meaning of true love would respect your decision and wont force you out of your own will by making you feel less of a woman because you didn't have sex with them, Trust me Ive been there done that am not only talking because people say it you have to be able to experience some things in life in order to grow more in wisdom life it self we get tested and we learn from it.They respect you when you say you want to do this and do that, they support  you every step of the way.They are not controlling and bossy i hate men who feel they got control over you especially when they think cause they are the shit which isn't or because they got the money or car or a job! A real man would take you for who you are respect your personality and and knows your worth as a woman and not control,yell at you or tells you what tot do boys do things alot.Trust me alot of my exes were boys boys boys boys.who just think they are smarter than anybody in this world but we ladies we show them how it is done.

10)A REAL MAN IS THE ESSENCE OF MANHOOD BECAUSE,BY DEFINITION HE HAS ACHIEVED THE PINNACLE OF HIS Role 

And last but not the least i must say hmm mmm mmm...this so far was one great night writing all these and putting them n all together.once again it might not the best note or perfect note either but am sure many ladies out there can relate to this article right hereand also understand where am coming from thank you so much for taking your time to read this i really do appreciate it from the bottom of my heart! your comments,advice critisim i will accept cause we all learn everyday to become a better person.My goal is to become a better writer it has been my joy and it also comforts me also.Thank you one again.TO TOP IT ALL 'A REAL MAN LOVES GOD AND PUT HIM FIRST IN EVERYTHING HE DOES" N HE ALSO HAS A HEART THAT KNOWS GOD" GOD Bless you all 

~IMMACULATE~

P.S this note was written by me if needed to make use of it please kindly let me know.Theres nothing wrong in being polite thanks <3

"IM JUST LIKE YOU"

Am a woman who loves to write and write and write....it makes me feel good even if am goin through stress.i found out writing was the best way to express my self feelings to ease out.This poem i wrote last nigth this my hobby i dont thinki can neva eva get tired of it.This inspires me 2 alwys have something on my stattus .sum ppl migth find it annoying and wy is she puttin her buisnes ouththere well here is a poem 2 actually express my mind..Am just like you we've all been through this its nothing new!

                   People just look at me.  Look enough to stare not noticing the inside of me, They just look at the clothes I wear, They don't know how I feel, They think I'm always glad But there's something they don't no I'm the one who's feeling sad. They think I always win but really I always loose,they think my life is so great but they couldn't stay one day in my shoes. You may think I'm strong You may think I'm tough but you have no idea. My life is so rough every time I'm in my roomy YOU'll see water go down my eyes. You ask me what's wrong I'll put on a fake smile. People say that I am to good to get hurt but I'm just like everyone else. I wish that could work everybody says I look to good and I'm just a tease but I cry my eyes out then put on a cheese. When love came into my life surprisingly that was something I feared.

                                    I never thought I'd be feeling like this in all my years, yes I've been in love yes I got hurt you would have  thought all she do is fight & flirt but you are wrong about everything.I was wrong at it to now I see love's agony and what it can do that's why I'm here to throw away this stress & strife to start all over maybe a new life but people over here is the same as over there they just look at your appearanceand the style of your hair never to look in the inside of me never to care. I was brought into this world realizing life's not fair so if you really think.......I look too good I dress too niceI never get hurt ?? I'll never stay by a guy side and the word love I can't describe??? your wrong about that too because I'm just like everyone else around me.(I'M JUST LIKE YOU!!!!!!).....

Precious Time!!

Time is so precious. It is one thing that can never be recovered. It waits for no one. It’s either you grab it or you lose it. Time operates on no one’s schedule and is not a respecter of anyone. Every second lost would eventually become days, months and years lost. That’s why the Psalmist asked the Lord to teach him to use his days and time wisely.

So many people waste their time doing absolutely nothing. I mean, at the end of the day, they can’t really say they have done anything significant. They can’t really say they have achieved something that will move their lives or other peoples lives forward. They go through each and every day like they can easily turn back the hands of time and start all over again. It’s really sad because, it’s not like God doesn’t want to move in our lives but sometimes we’re the ones hindering Him by doing unprofitable things which distract us from our real purpose. It’s not like God said you must spend every waking moment in His presence because He knows that’s not possible as we all have stuff to do. Some have to go to work, while others have to go to school, take care of children, and other important stuff. But He wants us to spend every second we have walking in line with His plan for our lives.

I’m not saying it’s wrong to sit back, relax and have fun but don’t overdo it. Some spend endless hours jumping from one party to another and achieve nothing out of it. It’s awesome to celebrate with people but when it becomes your full time job, then there’s an issue. Some live on their phones permanently and say all the things they should and should not say. I used to do that and I prayed it out of my system and now I’m able to ignore calls if my spirit does not approve of it. Not being rude or arrogant but if the call is not going to add anything to my life, I would rather just let it be. When I notice that after speaking to someone a few times on the phone and they really have nothing of value to add to my life, I quietly excuse myself. Also I noticed recently, some people have become facebook shareholders and have pitched their tents and built mansions on it. At all hours, they are there. They update their status every second and I wonder if they have anything of value to do with their time. They mind other peoples business like they are paid to do so.

There are so many things we do that we think are useful but, are actually really useless and time wasters. Sometimes, it’s not like you want to sit and do nothing but you just don’t know where to start or what else to do. I used to spend endless hours on the internet doing absolutely nothing and when I realized it was becoming an obsession, I made it a point to turn my computer off when I’m done. By doing that, I end up finding something more profitable to do. I know it’s tempting to just sit in front of the television the whole day but to be honest, at the end of the day, there’s this emptiness inside of you because you can’t really point at anything useful you’ve done that day. With all of the extra time on your hands, you can study the word, pray, listen to sermons, read inspirational and motivational books, go to the gym, clean your house, be creative and strategize your next move that will catapult your destiny.

I always tell a sister of mine that it is those that have nothing to do that keep facebook busy 24/7, 365 days a year. It is those that have nothing important to do with their time, that notice someone offended them and grumble about it from morning till night. It is jobless people that spend hours on end talking about absolute nonsense on the phone all day and everyday. Trust me, if you have goals to fulfill, there are so many things that will not even cross your mind to do, because your eyes are on the goal ahead of you. Those that want to fulfill their destinies are not time wasters. To them, every second counts.

All in all, there are so many profitable things that one can do, you just have to connect to God and allow Him to lead you. By doing that, you are walking on the right path and fulfilling your destiny. But remember, it’s not how fast you finish but how well. Whatever you notice takes up most of your time and you know it’s not profitable, ask God to help you deal with it. He is always waiting for us to pour our hearts out to Him. Always remember – “Every day lost, is an opportunity lost.”
 
                                                                ~IMMACULATE~~